I take Mother’s Day very, very seriously. Now, I am usually not a big Hallmark holiday type of gal. I could care less about Sweetest Day or Valentine’s Day, not even an acknowledgement required (how lucky is my husband?). St. Patty’s Day makes me hide in my house. New Year’s is the same. Christmas and Easter are fun, but tons of work and planning. Thanksgiving is like my Superbowl, as it pertains solely to food, but I digress.
Mother’s Day is my high holiday. A day where I get the day off. A day of rest. A day about ME. The past few years, I have gotten totally gypped. Mark has been out of town, a kid has been sick, and other uncontrollable circumstances have prevented me from doing the one thing I have wanted to do. NOTHING. As I told my husband, this is not about me not wanting to be around my kids, this is more about not having anyone NEED anything from me. A day where I am absolved of feeling guilty for doing what I want, not what my kids want. A day to walk out of the house to go shopping, alone and without moving heaven and earth to get said few hours alone to myself.
So, I thought I’d give you a brief synposis of what I DID NOT do and what I DID do:
I DID NOT wipe anyone’s butt but my own.
I DID NOT prepare or plan anyone’s meals but my own.
I DID NOT break up any fights or put anyone in time out.
I DID NOT cut up any food for anyone.
I DID NOT put a kid in a shower or bath.
I DID NOT get out of bed to start some electronic this morning.
I DID NOT go outside to ride bikes or go fishing on this frigid spring day.
I DID NOT make any decisions about anything for anyone.
I DID NOT load anyone into a car and wait patiently while they buckled up and fought over the movie, nor did I yell when they put up their umbrella instead of properly restraining themselves.
I DID NOT comb anyone’s hair or brushed any teeth that did not belong to me.
I DID NOT clean up after lunch and breakfast, and then proceed to sweep up most of what was prepared off the floor and table.
I DID NOT wipe any noses.
I DID NOT stand outside in the bitter cold yelling “CARRRR!”
I DID NOT get told I was chubby today.
I DID NOT have to tell my preschoolers teacher that I am not pregnant, no matter what my 4 year old told them.
I DID NOT have to explain how corn becomes popcorn, or why the lines are solid or striped in the street, or why birds poop or who that lady is in the car next to us.
I DID NOT have to watch Backyardigans, Dora, How It’s Made, Benji or Cinderella at all today. I did however watch Phineas and Ferb, because that show is hilarious.
However, I DID go shopping at my own pace. I tried on clothes, compared prices, and DID NOT have to stop and explain why the mannequins do not have hands and/or feet nor did I have to tell them “no not this time honey” to every single $1 item in the checkout line.
I DID go to a Mexican restaurant and had a big-ass margarita and some awesome fajitas nachos without once having to cut up any pancakes or ask for more ranch for chicken nuggets. I had an adult conversation without having to say once, “Wait for Mommy to finish….yes, that’s nice, no, I don’t know why that man has long hair or why that lady is wearing blue.”
I DID go to the bathroom BY MYSELF. No company. No comments on said results. No asking, “What’s the yucky smell?”
I DID read my book. In the middle of the day. For no reason.
I DID straighten up my house UNINTERRUPTED. I DID throw away some Easter candy and maybe a few artistic drawings without being accused of destroying their only food source and hating on their creativity.
I DID NOT yell one time today.
I love being a mom, even despite all the bitching you see on this blog. My kids crack me up. They light up my life and not for one second would I wish they weren’t here. I got to snuggle with my son today for a while, mainly because I didn’t have anything else planned or on my mind, and I could just sit and enjoy the moment. And I did. I high fived my daughter for her awesome picture that she drew and I excitedly listened to their stories about their day with dad. I did not ignore my children. I did not make a big deal about wanting to be away from them. Tomorrow I will start the day fresh and renewed and present. But, today, today was all about giving myself a break – emotionally and physically. It was awesome, and I can’t wait until next year to do it all over again.
Thanks to my husband and my family for understanding that I needed this day. Not because I am a bad mom, but because I do the best I can with what I’ve got and, frankly, I’m exhausted. I’d just like one day a year to not have to worry about anyone but myself. I hope you all had a day as wonderful as mine. God bless all the mothers out there. God bless our partners for putting up with us. And God bless the kids who let us try this parenting gig out on them, I’ll pay your therapy bills one day I promise.